Install the Evening Handover — or Let Time Decide for You

Most parents don’t choose chaos. They just don’t choose early.

They wait until something is “wrong.”
They wait until evenings unravel.
They wait until bedtime becomes a negotiation instead of a transition.
They wait because things seem fine.

And that’s the problem.

Nothing about sleep breaks suddenly.
It breaks over time.

For babies, that unraveling shows up as evenings that feel reactive, fragile, and increasingly hard to recover from.

The Industry’s Favorite Lie: “If It’s Not Broken, Don’t Fix It”

The baby sleep industry is built on reaction. 

Sleep training.
Gadgets.
Coaches.
Programs that promise to fix what’s already failing. 

But here’s what rarely gets said: By the time sleep is “broken,” the nervous system has already adapted to chaos and is dysregulated. Needing MORE.

The industry profits from that delay. Because reaction is $$$$$$.

Sleep Doesn’t Fall Apart at Bedtime

This is where Oneberrie fundamentally disagrees with the "normal"

Sleep doesn’t fall apart at bedtime.
It falls apart at the handover.

The transition from stimulation → safety.
From water → world.
From day → rest.

That’s where the nervous system decides whether rest is possible and sleep follows.

By the time pajamas are on and lights are dimmed, the decision has already been made. 

Why Hygiene Rules Miss the Point

You’ll hear it everywhere:

“Bath 2–3 times a week is fine.”

Sure.
For hygiene.

But sleep isn’t a hygiene problem.

It’s a biological readiness problem.

Babies:

• Don’t produce melatonin
• Don’t have an internal clock
• Don’t differentiate day from night
• Regulate through touch, temperature, and predictability

Water isn’t just cleansing.
It’s familiar.

They’ve been submerged for roughly 280 days.

A warm bath, followed by a predictable transition, isn’t about getting clean — it’s about telling the body what comes next.

That’s the evening handover.

Default vs Deliberate

Most parents don’t install evenings.

They inherit them.

From culture.
From advice.
From whatever worked for someone else’s baby.

That’s default.

Default is common.
Default is reactive.
Default relies on luck. (or temperament)

Deliberate is different. 

Deliberate installs a signal before stress enters the room.

What Oneberrie Actually Does (and Why It’s Different)

Oneberrie doesn’t promise sleep.

We don’t sell hacks.
We don’t sell outcomes.
We don’t wait for problems.

We install sleep readiness early by anchoring the evening handover.

Through:

• Physical infrastructure that steadies the caregiver
• Sensory-safe materials that don’t shock the nervous system
• Sequence that removes decision-making
• Predictability that compounds over time

This isn’t about perfection.
It’s about preparation.

The Cost of Waiting

When parents say:
“We’ll deal with it if it becomes a problem.”

What they’re really saying is:
“We’ll pay later.”

Later looks like:

• nightly troubleshooting
• escalating bedtime routines
• dependence on tools that stop working
• regret disguised as normal

Reaction is expensive.

Installation is investment .

The Win Isn’t Sleep Tonight

This is where Oneberrie draws a hard line.

The win isn’t your baby sleeping now.

The win is your child knowing what rest feels like as life changes.

Because life will change.
Routines will break.
Schedules will shift.

What holds isn’t the tactic.
It’s the foundation.

Who Oneberrie Is For

Oneberrie is for people who don’t want to:

• leave evenings to chance
• troubleshoot nightly
• rely on luck
• wait until something is “wrong”

It’s for parents who understand that time is not neutral.

If you don’t install structure early, time installs something else.

The Choice Is Simple (Even If It’s Not Easy)

You can leave evenings to default.

Or you can install the evening handover.

Before sleep becomes fragile.
Before chaos feels normal.
Before reaction becomes the plan.

Because nothing breaks suddenly.

It breaks on schedule.

You just get to choose if it breaks althogether.

Install the evening handover.