We were so excited to start our family but I didn't tell anyone at my work. As a gay non-gestational parent, I wasn't prepared to share more of myself or answer all the questions that would come with it. I removed myself from the family community because being part of it meant disclosing more than I was willing to give.

I was a solo adoptee parent and had been working at the company for over 10 years. My boss, a father himself, was so begrudged with me choosing to take leave. He completely blocked any acknowledgement at work. He was a gate keeper of joy. Sure, I could have made a complaint, but at that point, it wasn't worth the effort. I didn't return

An employee had called to ask what the protocol for our initiative was before he ordered. He wanted to know whether he had to disclose his family's pregnancy or if we would. I reassured him that we do not share and that was for him to do when her was ready. He was so grateful for the inclusion of his workplace as well as the respect for his privacy.

Both my babies were celebrated at work. It was such a wonderful experience and they had a mini baby shower for me like my wife had at home. I could have never imagined someone would do that for me. I am still at the company today.